We love the holidays! We just get all into this season. I make sure its magical! Yes, I have a great relationship with Santa. I know some people teach that he’s not real, but in my house, he shows up. It’s fun, and the magic they experience is priceless! I don’t think it takes away from the glory we give to the Lord. My opinion.
Christmas season is multiplied in my house by the number of birthdays around and ON Christmas Day. There are 4 kids with birthdays within 2 weeks of Christmas, including 1 on Christmas Day. Fun times for US! Takes a little creativity on my part. We try to make it special for them, so planning starts waaaayy back in September. We plan the amount of gifts, for birthdays and Christmas. My kids like to count gifts on the days leading up to Christmas, making sure they are not left out. It’s not really about the price for kids, as it is about the quantity. (At least right now, while that are clueless about the value of money.) So, we strategically wrap gifts so that everyone has the same amount of packages. I may put a scarf and hat in 2 boxes just so that they will not compare and complain before they open the gifts. I better have 6 wrapped before placing one under the tree, baby! Everything even and everything fair, or else there will be some tension!
Now, we do try to teach that it’s not about the gifts. It’s better to give than to receive. That message is received, but I am not sure how well, based on the lengthy Christmas lists I still get from a few of them. Smh.
I not only have to plan my Christmas and Birthday gifts, but also the gifts from other people to the kids. With good intentions, some people give gifts to different “sets” of children, in different quantities and qualities…….. And there goes my planning efforts deflated. Some people get it, and some people don’t. So, in anticipation, I will have to have spare gifts put aside to prevent feelings of rejection that may last a lifetime. (Small, but it’s not the value that matters. The younger they are, the more vocal they are about their feelings of rejection. We spent many birthdays and holidays dealing with tears with the older group!!! Omg! Tears of rejection and overwhelming guilt, too. The older kids will now express that they know who they will and will not receive gifts or acknowledgment. They understand it’s not personal now. There is nothing they did wrong or can do differently to make other people change. We teach them that they are one family, but other people see them as they want to.
Now, don’t get me wrong, we are grateful for any blessing we receive, but they are still kids with feelings. I don’t like this division, but I just use it as a teachable moment. Character building. I tell them to be the change they wish to see in the world. When they have an opportunity to bless someone, they should remember that feeling. Keep it moving with love!!
Seasons greetings to you all!!! The hubby said you will be hearing from him soon on this blog!! Yay!
“If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. … We need not wait to see what others do.” ~Gandhi